Common Reveals He Was Molested In New Book.
He starts off that chapter of his life by sharing that he actually managed to forget about being molested until he worked on the 2017 film The Tale which followed the story of the director’s childhood abuse.
“One day, while talking through the script with actress Laura Dern, old memories surprisingly flashed in my mind,” he wrote.
“I caught my breath and just kept looping the memories over and over, like rewinding an old VHS tape to take closer looks at the previous scene. I said to Laura, ‘I think I was abused.’ Right there, it all came back to my mind as if someone had suddenly inserted deleted scenes into that little movie in my head, scenes that I hadn’t remembered or thought about before, scenes I couldn’t even remember remembering.”
Common shares that he was molested by a relative of his godbrother Skeet, who is referred to as “Brandon” in the book, while on a family trip. He recalled a time before the actual tip when Brandon made him feel uncomfortable when he put his hand on Common’s shoulder and back.
While that made him nervous for the trip, Common didn’t speak up about it when he was assigned to be roommates with Brandon.
“I don’t remember how much time passed, but at some
pointI felt Brandon’s hand on me,” he wrote. “I pushed him away; I don’t remember saying a whole lot, besides ‘No, no, no.’ That aside, I just kept pushing away his hand, then his hands. And he kept saying something like, ‘It’s okay, it’s okay, everybody does this.’ Whether that was true or not didn’t matter to me at all—I knew I didn’t want any part of what he wanted. I felt his hand on my crotch; I said ‘No’ more forcefully, but not loud enough for anyone else to hear us.”
“He kept saying, ‘It’s okay, it’s okay’ as he pulled down my shorts and molested me. After he stopped, he then kept asking me to perform it on him. I kept repeating ‘No,’ and pushing him away. Thinking back, I should’ve gotten up from the bed and ran out of the room; but I felt a deep and sudden shame for what happened, and for what he kept trying to make happen, as if I had brought it all on myself. I didn’t want to say anything, to anyone, and hoped that he would just leave me alone, and go to sleep, which, eventually, he did once I fought back enough that he knew I was not going to touch him at all.”
The rapper says that the abuse didn’t continue for the rest of the trip. He says that he wished it never happened and has managed to forgive, Brandon.
The Grammy winner declared he wanted to “be a person who helps break cycles of violence and trauma.” Common’s Let Love Have The Last World: A Memoir is available now.